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How to overcome anxiety and depression?

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gopi_vbboy Original post #1
Aug 15, 2013 at 9:33 PM
Hi all,

I started this thread for asking some tips to overcome these issue.


Anxiety-Whenever i face a problem , my mind gets negative thoughts of failure.
For eg When iam at home, i get anxious when i hear some people outside calling or vehicle goes by.
I feel sometimes that some bad thing is coming or quarrel may happen with him.
I had this feeling since i fought with a guy when he argued outside my house over some problem.
I worry a lot over silly things .My heart starts to pump fast when feel anxious.
I don't know how to overcome this anxiety which i feel from longtime.



Depression-Sometimes Whenever i face failure, i easily get depressed without moving forward.
I try to motivate myself but get depressed at times.This is mostly because i faced failure and it repeats and
i lose energy to move forward and get demotivated/depressed.But i can recover over short period but i waste my time over
internet when i get depressed.This cause me to get addicted to internet.



Do i need to consult a doctor for these issues?Can i overcome it with meditation or something?

Thanks
Renny
Renny #2
Aug 15, 2013 at 10:09 PM
When did you fight with the guy? Its totally natural to feel shaky after an encounter (if you haven't had experience fighting with people!!), don't worry the fear will pass and you'll toughen up and get stronger in the process - What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
What you refer to as sudden heart rate spike are palpitations due to anxiety - Meditate, focus, workout and toughen yourself up - Nothing like being prepared for an eventual hard situation (Which we all must face time to time).

Is it workplace failure gets you down/depressed?

PS - Go to a doctor as a last resort, your symptoms aren't chronic, don't let them go till there.
TheHumanBot
Aug 16, 2013 at 9:24 AM
*www.youtube.com/user/bkshivani
Eric Thomas - YouTube
Shah
Shah #4
Aug 16, 2013 at 10:19 AM
Hi all,

I started this thread for asking some tips to overcome these issue.


Anxiety-Whenever i face a problem , my mind gets negative thoughts of failure.
For eg When iam at home, i get anxious when i hear some people outside calling or vehicle goes by.
I feel sometimes that some bad thing is coming or quarrel may happen with him.
I had this feeling since i fought with a guy when he argued outside my house over some problem.
I worry a lot over silly things .My heart starts to pump fast when feel anxious.
I don't know how to overcome this anxiety which i feel from longtime.



Depression-Sometimes Whenever i face failure, i easily get depressed without moving forward.
I try to motivate myself but get depressed at times.This is mostly because i faced failure and it repeats and
i lose energy to move forward and get demotivated/depressed.But i can recover over short period but i waste my time over
internet when i get depressed.This cause me to get addicted to internet.



Do i need to consult a doctor for these issues?Can i overcome it with meditation or something?

Thanks

We're on the same boat, bro. Regarding anxiety, You might have OCD as I do.

Lately, I have started liking feeling Depressed. And I am addicted to that feeling. Don't know why.
G
Aug 16, 2013 at 10:34 AM
When did you fight with the guy? Its totally natural to feel shaky after an encounter (if you haven't had experience fighting with people!!), don't worry the fear will pass and you'll toughen up and get stronger in the process - What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
What you refer to as sudden heart rate spike are palpitations due to anxiety - Meditate, focus, workout and toughen yourself up - Nothing like being prepared for an eventual hard situation (Which we all must face time to time).

Is it workplace failure gets you down/depressed?

PS - Go to a doctor as a last resort, your symptoms aren't chronic, don't let them go till there.

Thanks for thoughts.I fought about 3 months ago.
I am not working and at home trying other jobs/higher studies since a year which is a risk i took .
But these issues amplified a bit since i am at home due to boredom i guess.

*www.youtube.com/user/bkshivani
Eric Thomas - YouTube

Thanks will listen

We're on the same boat, bro. Regarding anxiety, You might have OCD as I do.

Lately, I have started liking feeling Depressed. And I am addicted to that feeling. Don't know why.

thanks will research on symptoms.
T
Aug 16, 2013 at 10:36 AM
We're on the same boat, bro. Regarding anxiety, You might have OCD as I do.

Lately, I have started liking feeling Depressed. And I am addicted to that feeling. Don't know why.

Yeah, I am suffering from that too but its Obsessive Computer Disorder in my case :lol:.

@OP... don't worry bro, we're with you in the elite group of non-working-sitting-at-home-infront-of-their-computer-all-time disorder.
G
Aug 16, 2013 at 10:38 AM
Yeah, I am suffering from that too but its Obsessive Computer Disorder in my case :lol:.

@OP... don't worry bro, we're with you in the elite group of non-working-sitting-at-home-infront-of-their-computer-all-time disorder.

Thanks ;)

@shah

Ya i do wash my hands frequently..lol as per wiki have one symptom atleast. let see

*upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/1/1b/OCD_handwash.jpg/230px-OCD_handwash.jpg
Nanducob
Aug 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM
The symptoms you mentioned are more or less the same i had when i was diagnosed with anxiety/schizophrenia/depression,2 years back.Feeling anxiety is absolutely normal but only upto a level which would not inhibit you daily routine.I would highly recommend you to consult a psychiatrist before anything goes worse.
Hrishi
Hrishi #9
Aug 16, 2013 at 10:53 AM
Hi all,

I started this thread for asking some tips to overcome these issue.


Anxiety-Whenever i face a problem , my mind gets negative thoughts of failure.
For eg When iam at home, i get anxious when i hear some people outside calling or vehicle goes by.
I feel sometimes that some bad thing is coming or quarrel may happen with him.
I had this feeling since i fought with a guy when he argued outside my house over some problem.
I worry a lot over silly things .My heart starts to pump fast when feel anxious.
I don't know how to overcome this anxiety which i feel from longtime.



Depression-Sometimes Whenever i face failure, i easily get depressed without moving forward.
I try to motivate myself but get depressed at times.This is mostly because i faced failure and it repeats and
i lose energy to move forward and get demotivated/depressed.But i can recover over short period but i waste my time over
internet when i get depressed.This cause me to get addicted to internet.



Do i need to consult a doctor for these issues?Can i overcome it with meditation or something?

Thanks

Not alone on that boat , in the forum.:wink:
Well I do have similar issues.
Here's something I suggest :
->Increase interaction with people in physical life . I mean go out and have some friends.

->Everyone out there feels pretty much the same at some stage of life . But then they learn to fight. You'll get aware of this fact when you start observing people around you. That's why I am saying interact and understand how everyone else feels.

If possible try to make so close friends with whom you can share your feelings. It really helps. Learn to enjoy every moment , there's nothing to be afraid of. It's all part of life .
G
Aug 16, 2013 at 11:02 AM
The symptoms you mentioned are more or less the same i had when i was diagnosed with anxiety/schizophrenia/depression,2 years back.Feeling anxiety is absolutely normal but only upto a level which would not inhibit you daily routine.I would highly recommend you to consult a psychiatrist before anything goes worse.

Thanks will consider.Did you take meds?

I also have this feeling that everything should be clean, perfect,etc.Did u have such symptoms.

Not alone on that boat , in the forum.:wink:
Well I do have similar issues.
Here's something I suggest :
->Increase interaction with people in physical life . I mean go out and have some friends.

->Everyone out there feels pretty much the same at some stage of life . But then they learn to fight. You'll get aware of this fact when you start observing people around you. That's why I am saying interact and understand how everyone else feels.

If possible try to make so close friends with whom you can share your feelings. It really helps. Learn to enjoy every moment , there's nothing to be afraid of. It's all part of life .

Thanks rishi, i was trying the same for past few months slowly.It does give a confidence.I will improve.
Shah
Shah #11
Aug 16, 2013 at 11:03 AM
Thanks ;)

@shah

Ya i do wash my hands frequently..lol as per wiki have one symptom atleast. let see

*upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/1/1b/OCD_handwash.jpg/230px-OCD_handwash.jpg

Answer these questions, bro.

Do you become anxious when you find cupboards, windows or doors open?

Do you become anxious when you find things misplaced?

When you are anxious do you find it hard to concentrate on your work?

Are you sensitive to sound, light, etc.?
Hrishi
Hrishi #12
Aug 16, 2013 at 11:19 AM
Thanks will consider.Did you take meds?

I also have this feeling that everything should be clean, perfect,etc.Did u have such symptoms.

Yeah , I still feel everything should go according to logic and perfection . But these things give me hard time making friends , so when I am with friends , I have somewhat learnt to say f**k logic and perfection. Let's have fun instead.

There was a time when I started developing problems with breathing . In fact , whenever I had thoughts about my career , future , exams , meeting with people , handling difficult situations I had that moment when I started feeling anxiety and then had problems with breathing.
I always wanted things to go the perfect way , and at times when it didn't happened that way then it was too harsh to bear.

In the end if there's something that's keeping it under control , it definitely has to be the practice of thinking less and doing more . I have stopped thinking too much , instead I spend more time finding a solution. I have realised that there are always some people there who care about me and will be there for me in times of need. I am not sure if there are any , but the thought gives me confidence to fight hard.
I keep in close with parents and family because their existence always makes me feel powerful ( confident ). And that I am not alone.

That's just my idea . It may be wrong or right , but I don't care as long as I am happy with that.
G
Aug 16, 2013 at 11:24 AM
Answer these questions, bro.

Do you become anxious when you find cupboards, windows or doors open?

Do you become anxious when you find things misplaced?

When you are anxious do you find it hard to concentrate on your work?

Are you sensitive to sound, light, etc.?

yes to all

Yeah , I still feel everything should go according to logic and perfection . But these things give me hard time making friends , so when I am with friends , I have somewhat learnt to say f**k logic and perfection. Let's have fun instead.

There was a time when I started developing problems with breathing . In fact , whenever I had thoughts about my career , future , exams , meeting with people , handling difficult situations I had that moment when I started feeling anxiety and then had problems with breathing.
I always wanted things to go the perfect way , and at times when it didn't happened that way then it was too harsh to bear.

In the end if there's something that's keeping it under control , it definitely has to be the practice of thinking less and doing more . I have stopped thinking too much , instead I spend more time finding a solution. I have realised that there are always some people there who care about me and will be there for me in times of need. I am not sure if there are any , but the thought gives me confidence to fight hard.
I keep in close with parents and family because their existence always makes me feel powerful ( confident ). And that I am not alone.

That's just my idea . It may be wrong or right , but I don't care as long as I am happy with that.

Agree with you.We should develop mind control which is very important.
Hrishi
Hrishi #14
Aug 16, 2013 at 11:26 AM
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Shah
Shah #15
Aug 16, 2013 at 12:18 PM
yes to all

There's a high chance that you're having OCD. Let me know if you find a solution to come out of this disorder. It might help me too.

Not alone on that boat , in the forum.:wink:
Welcome to the club(boat :p). :D
->Increase interaction with people in physical life . I mean go out and have some friends.
It's next to impossible for me to make new friends. :( :(

If possible try to make so close friends with whom you can share your feelings. It really helps. Learn to enjoy every moment , there's nothing to be afraid of. It's all part of life .
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I don't trust anyone; even me. That's the problem with me. I can't even make a good friend let alone close friend. :(

@gopi_vbboy:
Sorry for hijacking your thread.
abhidev
abhidev #16
Aug 16, 2013 at 12:22 PM
Answer these questions, bro.

Do you become anxious when you find things misplaced?

When you are anxious do you find it hard to concentrate on your work?
you are not alone buddy....even I get anxious with such things.

Moreover I also get anxious when people are wasting things like...
1. when eating out in a restaurant with friends...if they waste food..I get bit anxious and upset that the food is gonna be wasted and then I think abt the less fortunate ppl who have a hard time getting food.
2. I get anxious when I see a water tap open...wastage of water.
3. When I was in college...I would get really anxious before exams and would keep on calling my friends asking what all they have studied till now just to check if I have missed anything important...I know its silly :oops:...but it was the feeling to be left behind made me anxious.
4. There was also feeling that I would go totally blank during my exams and interview.


yes having interactions with close frnds and family helps a lot to overcome this...the feeling that you are not alone.
Shah
Shah #17
Aug 16, 2013 at 12:26 PM
you are not alone buddy....even I get anxious with such things.

Moreover I also get anxious when people are wasting things like...
1. when eating out in a restaurant with friends...if they waste food..I get bit anxious and upset that the food is gonna be wasted and then I think abt the less fortunate ppl who have a hard time getting food.
2. I get anxious when I see a water tap open...wastage of water.
3. When I was in college...I would get really anxious before exams and would keep on calling my friends asking what all they have studied till now just to check if I have missed anything important...I know its silly :oops:...but it was the feeling to be left behind made me anxious.
4. There was also feeling that I would go totally blank during my exams and interview.


yes having interactions with close frnds and family helps a lot to overcome this...the feeling that you are not alone.

I do feel the same about all the things mentioned above. :D

Let's create a separate thread for anxious and depressed digitians. :p
Nanducob
Nanducob #18
Aug 16, 2013 at 12:28 PM
Thanks will consider.Did you take meds?

I also have this feeling that everything should be clean, perfect,etc.Did u have such symptoms.
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yeah bud,im taking meds for past 2 years and doc said i would only have to take it for 2 more months since im almost at the last stage of recovery.:)
Also i was kinda like a perfectionist earlier,but im not as chronic as earlier.
...
For me(2 years ago) symptoms started at my new workplace.When i was not around others,i always got this bad feeling that my coworkers are talking behind my back saying bad things about me and i feared of being judged.I was not happy and i stayed away from social life/friends.I wouldnt take phone calls from my friend.I avoided everything and got isolated.From then everything felt really bad,i became a cynic. Thats when i quit my job and saw doc.
The real problem is the way we think about a situation,we tend to be more of a pessimist,but we really dont want to be,but thats what mind tells us to be.My doc told me to cause of this illness.
1)hereditary cause
2)chronic alcoholism
3)lack of sleep
etc.
Hrishi
Hrishi #19
Aug 16, 2013 at 12:54 PM
Absolutely!!! Never ever think about what they will say.
Also stop thinking about things you can't control.
Hrishi
Hrishi #20
Aug 16, 2013 at 12:58 PM
I do feel the same about all the things mentioned above. :D

Let's create a separate thread for anxious and depressed digitians. :p

Not sure that you guys are depressed. I think since most of the geek/techie guys are addicted to virtual life so much that handling real life situations becomes awkward and tiresome. Since you haven't had the chance to experience such situations before.

Modern day kids and teens Google for solutions .
G
Aug 16, 2013 at 1:13 PM
I do feel the same about all the things mentioned above. :D

Let's create a separate thread for anxious and depressed digitians. :p

no probs use this thread

Absolutely!!! Never ever think about what they will say.
Also stop thinking about things you can't control.

Ya that right..some times I worry about water flowing on road due to negligence of water dept..but the thought is useless as I can't control the leakage or fix it.

Thanks will consider.Did you take meds?

I also have this feeling that everything should be clean, perfect,etc.Did u have such symptoms.
/QUOTE]
yeah bud,im taking meds for past 2 years and doc said i would only have to take it for 2 more months since im almost at the last stage of recovery.:)
Also i was kinda like a perfectionist earlier,but im not as chronic as earlier.
...
For me(2 years ago) symptoms started at my new workplace.When i was not around others,i always got this bad feeling that my coworkers are talking behind my back saying bad things about me and i feared of being judged.I was not happy and i stayed away from social life/friends.I wouldnt take phone calls from my friend.I avoided everything and got isolated.From then everything felt really bad,i became a cynic. Thats when i quit my job and saw doc.
The real problem is the way we think about a situation,we tend to be more of a pessimist,but we really dont want to be,but thats what mind tells us to be.My doc told me to cause of this illness.
1)hereditary cause
2)chronic alcoholism
3)lack of sleep
etc.

Thanks for inputs and good to hear you recovered.You must be our anti depression guru.
Gollum
Gollum #22
Aug 16, 2013 at 1:27 PM
*sociorocketnewsen.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/internet-addiction.jpg?w=500&h=375
Addiction — it comes in many forms and can quickly destroy your life and all that is dear to you. We all know it forms an integral part of our lives in the 21st century, but have you ever wondered if you may be addicted to the Internet?

Sure, the Internet has certainly made our lives easier in many ways, allowing us to instantly learn breaking news, stay in touch with friends or buy practically anything you need with the click of a button. However, always being connected perhaps makes it a little too easy to constantly receive and send information, and for some people it can turn into a serious dependency problem.

Japanese news site Excite News recently ran an article based on the online manga (comic) series titled “The Manga Introductory Guide to Psychosomatic Medicine” (Manga de Wakaru Shinryo Naika) published by You Mental Clinic, in particular an episode dealing with Internet addiction. According to the article, the manga episode lists 10 signs that indicate you may be addicted to the Internet. So, do any of them apply to you?

10 Signs of Internet Addiction

1. You often realize that you’ve been online longer than you intended or thought.

2. While using the Internet, you often find you can’t stop and go offline, even when you think it’s time you should.

3. You find yourself choosing to spend time online rather than with other people.

4. Even when there’s something you know you have to get done, you find yourself connecting to the Net first.

5. There have been instances when the quality of your work or studies has suffered due to time spent online.

6. You’ve made new acquaintances through the Internet.

7. Being online helps to calm your everyday worries and relieve stress.

8. You find it very annoying or upsetting when you’re interrupted while online.

9. Without the Internet, your life as you see it would be boring and empty.

10. During your daily routines, you often can’t stop thinking about the Internet.

If you answered “yes” to five or more of the statements above, the article says there’s a chance that you may be more dependent on the Internet than is healthy. The scary part is, quite a few of them sound like they could apply to anyone, or at least a good many number of people, don’t they?

The article goes on to mention that in China, where Internet dependency is seen as becoming an increasingly serious social issue, one criteria used to diagnose Internet addiction is if someone spends an average of six hours or more online daily other than for work or study. Now, six hours may sound like an awfully long time and you may think that there’s no way you could be spending that much time connected to the Internet. While that may be true, it’s also quite possible that you’re actually online each day for a longer amount of time than you think. With smart phones allowing people to go online anywhere anytime, those short spans of time spent checking e-mails or tweeting can pile up. If you think you may be a little too fond of the Internet, it may be a good idea to keep accurate track of exactly how much time you’re spending online each day.

And what should you do if some of the signs listed above seem to apply to you? According to psychiatrist Dr. Yu Yūki, who is quoted in the article, it’s naturally important for anyone with a dependency issue to first realize that a problem exists, so simply acknowledging that you may be dependent on the Internet is a step forward.

The next step would be physically keeping yourself away from the Internet, maybe by forcing yourself to go outdoors or to go see friends and family and basically staying away from computers and mobile devices whenever you feel the urge to connect to the Internet. Hmm, that sounds like it may be easier said than done, particularly with all the communication devices we’re surrounded by, but then, of course weaning yourself from any kind of dependency can’t be expected to be easy.

If the list does make you pause for thought, though, it may not be such a bad idea to take some time to think about how much time you really want to be spending time in the virtual world, because hopefully, the “real” world also has much joy and delight to offer you. Oh, wait, before I go out and take a walk in the nice warm weather, I just need to deal with a few e-mails, check for crazy-funny questions on Yahoo! Answers, look for new adorable cat videos on YouTube, see if the new volume of my favorite manga has come out on Amazon … Umm, I may be busy for a while…
G
Aug 17, 2013 at 4:50 PM
^^Thanks Gollum..
Shah
Shah #24
Aug 17, 2013 at 5:04 PM
These days, I get anxious whenever I see posts with text like "Experia", "Lumina" and "I Phone". :-x