Kiran_tech_mania
Public display of such acts is nuisance. I personally have a bad experience in taking kids to places like Marine Drive in Mumbai or Lalbagh in Bangalore.......I feel embarrassed Kids glaring at these couples and asking questions.
I understand that u r talking from a parent's point of view. Ur concern is pretty valid and i can't disagree on that, when even i get those pesky questions thrown at me by my nephews and nieces.
There is a huge element of embarrassment and uneasiness associated with public display. Agreed.
But then, going by your logic, which is defining the terms of civility in terms of kids, there are so many pertinent matters, other than public display, or perhaps within the realms of public display, that can't be allowed, and i am not even talking of "sex education", Bollywood, Hollywood or trash on TV.
Sample this:
1. There should not be any Aids awareness debate on any public platform,like TV, which our kids are exposed to. Because it will lead to discussions relating to safe "sex", use of "contraceptives", use of "condoms" and a huge probability of our kids asking us all sorts of embarrassing questions.
2. A company should not advertise any of the feminine products or contraceptives or condoms on TV, because, again the kids will ask questions, which, will leave us with nothing to hide our face with.
3. News channels can't report on rapes and other sexual atrocities against women, neither can they discuss these issues, because, once again, kids might ask embarrassing questions.
4. The beautiful temples at Khajurao and Konark should be demolished because, explicit sexual postures have been used as various metaphors and is enough to raise a question or two from our little ones.
Perhaps these examples have no direct relation to Shilpa-Gere incidence, but the point i am trying to make is that parameters of a modern civil society, though very much inclusive of kids, does not depend on their reactions, but on our understanding of “acceptability". Although a certain level of protection for the kids is an absolute necessity, the question is "how" and "for how long". And it is this question that even the most modern and open minded societies' of Europe are finding hard to answer.
In the day and age of internet, when our kids are just one click away from bottomless perversion, do we help them to learn the rights from wrong, good from bad and make choices through a process of "understanding" or through a process of forceful top-down approach, which runs the risk of giving them a truncated, often perverted, hand-me-downs ?
What not to see in these places? Couples doing all the private things in public
Agreed. I am obviously not talking of this kind of display. I am talking of display of love/liking, not display of foreplay. If anybody tells me, like that kid in the judge's chair in Jaipur,that Gere's act was one of sexual stimulation, well, i will be tempted to put a question mark on his maturity.
To ur beloved, of course. If i like someone, or love, why can't i show her my affection in public place, of course, if she does not find it offensive.
But that doesn't mean that we ignore the current values and traditions. Follow it now and let it take it's own sweet time to change. Traditions are made to respect and that's how it should be
U have got to be kidding me. Seems like a quote from "Mien Kampf". If Rammohan Roy decided that in time the "tradition" of "Sati" will die a natural death, then perhaps ,it would have by now, but only after claiming millions of widows. Same with “child marriage”, “multiple marriages” etc. And how will it "change", if instead of attempting to change it, follow it blindfolded ? Perhaps through divine intervention.
That's were the awareness comes in. Now seeing this media hype, at least some people get educated how to behave in Indian soil. Many will think twice before attempting such things....
There will be lessons learnt, all right, but whether its about - "how to behave in Indian soil", a soil that breeds halfwits by hordes, or "why, not to take Indians seriously, Indians, who are nothing but a bunch of bigots, that spend half their energy, time and resource to criminalize a kisser, with a we-have-solved-all-our-problems-and-this-is-the-only-preblem-left attitude" - is something that remains to be seen.
The bottom line is, Shilpa-Gere issue doesn't even merit a second look, but here we are, issuing arrest warrents, because a horny judge can't control his gigantic libido, burning their effigies and posters, because, media has splashed Bunta's face, so Santa has to make an appearance on TV, and we are debating this on this forum, of course, because we all love this forum.
And i wonder why i have wasted 10 min to write this post.
We really need to grow up.
