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True Love.. Does it only come along once in lifetime

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Sathish
Sathish Original post #1
Jan 5, 2009 at 8:50 AM
What do u mean with "true love"..
is it true...(for both boys and girls)
esumitkumar
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:04 AM
True love means selfless love ie u sacrifice ur own happiness,desires etc for happiness of ur mate . Its true but rare in today's scenario...

and Yes it comes once :)
Faun
Faun #3
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:06 AM
not once, it comes in various relationships and sometimes for complete strangers too :p

Just dont confuse first love with true love ;)
esumitkumar
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:37 AM
but what if first love = true love ;)
Faun
Faun #5
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:54 AM
second love can also be true, i mean both can be :p
rhitwick
Jan 5, 2009 at 11:21 AM
True Love: Like all those hypotheses, ideologies it is also one concept. Every human being whoever in love tries to achieve it. In my opinion, it can only be achieved when both of the partners feel same about themselves, reciprocates same feelings against them. But this is sometimes (or most of the time) the feeling is not equal at both the ends.

Even LOVE is so rare these days that the few moments of staying together, holding hands (n other things:rolleyes:) seems to be real love.

True Love doesn't demand anything, doesn't expect anything, doesn't want u to prove anything. U just love ur partner, respect his/her decisions, believe in him/her...in short unconditional.
iMav
iMav #7
Jan 5, 2009 at 11:23 AM
Oh My GOD!
Coool
Coool #8
Jan 5, 2009 at 12:07 PM
true love happens only once in a life time....if it breaks up, he/she never believe in love after that...
so, true love only once...
kumarmohit
Jan 5, 2009 at 2:48 PM
True Love - WTF is that?
And Wat is Untrue Love then?
C
Chirag #11
Jan 5, 2009 at 4:17 PM
^^
Hawas ko pura karne ke liye kiya gaya pyar. :D Sounds gross, wooter !!
rhitwick
rhitwick #13
Jan 5, 2009 at 5:11 PM
Dear sir/madam
true love happens only once in a life time....if it breaks up, he/she never believe in love after that...:mad:






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is this user some kinda spambot?
In a few threads I observed that he/she just copy pasted an already posted comment.

What is this "Dear sir/Madam" and "mailmantra url"?
kumarmohit
Jan 5, 2009 at 6:45 PM
Its not a spambot, its a person spamming - The answers seem to be context sensitive unlike bots which rely on mathematically calculated sentences.
Pat
Pat #15
Jan 5, 2009 at 7:04 PM
^^ The answers seem to be "copy" of one of the posts in the same thread. Could be a human spammer too, but I guess it is a bot.
codename_romeo
Jan 5, 2009 at 7:11 PM
True love would actually be defined by your intentions towards the person you love. You may love more than one person at various points of time and love them with utmost honesty and sincerity. So all of them are true love. First love is always first love and no matter whether it is a mere infatuation(99% times true) or actually love, it still remains the first love.
And yeah love can come from people you don even know, people you hate or it may so happen that in your entire lifetime you will never ever realize that a person loved you. Love isnt all about expressing it.
toofan
toofan #17
Jan 5, 2009 at 7:31 PM
Love is always true and if its not true then its not love. And if not love then it may be attraction, may be need of emotional support or sex or something else. It may turn into love and may not or you can remain attracted to him/her for your lifetime.

Simple:p
a_k_s_h_a_y
Jan 5, 2009 at 8:12 PM
holy crap. this is so embarrassing.
red_devil
red_devil #19
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:17 PM
so many threads relating to Love/ Girl friends etc etc on Digit....


sign of oozing Testosterone amongst digitians ?? :D ;)
Kl@w-24
Kl@w-24 #20
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:18 PM
^ ^ ^ Geeks gone wild!! :D
red_devil
red_devil #21
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:20 PM
wrt the topic.... welll depends on the way u define love....

TRUE love for that hot chick next road/building/bench/seat/cubicle :p will always come back.....
Kl@w-24
Kl@w-24 #22
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:28 PM
Okay, so here are my 2 cents. True love does NOT come once in a lifetime. Your first love doesn't need be your last love, no matter how true it was. When it's over you can either spend the rest of your life feeling miserable that you lost your "true love" or you can look forward to someone who'll give you a reason to live for another day. :D
Faun
Faun #23
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:34 PM
^^yeah :D
utsav
utsav #24
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:34 PM
so many threads relating to Love/ Girl friends etc etc on Digit....


sign of oozing Testosterone amongst digitians ?? :D ;)

atleast this proves that digitians aren't gay :D
red_devil
red_devil #25
Jan 5, 2009 at 9:38 PM
^ well not all.... MOST ...

check the girlfriends thread for some gay details :p
Faun
Faun #26
Jan 5, 2009 at 10:10 PM
^^welcome back :p Nice to see you back in forum.

Well...I have realized that true love can be for more than one person. You have equal feelings for both.
Kl@w-24
Kl@w-24 #27
Jan 5, 2009 at 10:14 PM
I know what you mean, yes you can probably fall in love again, truly as well, but if you were true to your first love you would never forget the feeling, the first feeling of everything you felt during those first romantic encounters.
Yes you should not try to live a miserable live and probably your second love would give you a reason to live, but no one, simply no one can replace your first true sincere mature love.

Yup, that's what I mean. There's a quote - 'Don't be sad that it's over. Be happy that it happened' or something like that.

You can't forget the feeling of that first true love, but you'll be doing grave injustice to the one who comes into your life after that, if you don't get over it.
Sathish
Sathish #28
Jan 5, 2009 at 11:26 PM
well.. but in my personal observation, love is most probably (95%) nothing but a sexual attraction.. so it has more chances to come back once more.. its nature.
Kl@w-24
Kl@w-24 #29
Jan 5, 2009 at 11:28 PM
^ ^ ^El contraire, monsieur!
harryneopotter
Jan 5, 2009 at 11:31 PM
True love ..... isnt it becoming an Oxymoron in todays time with every passing day ??

Some says true love is selfless, true love doesnt require expressing, true love does not demand anything in return and all that. I feel this is not right. If love is really a sacred feeling, than y should a person experiencing this feeling ought to suffer by sacrificing/not expressing/not expecting. Nothing is selfless for a normal person (not talking bout saints like mother teresa etcc...). If u love someone with all ur might than u would want to see them happy, and wat could be better you r the reason for it. And u cant keep someone happy without being with him/her, without giving them support when needed, without seeing through tough times together. And for that u have to be with that person and for that u have to EXPRESS ur self.

Its my defination of true love. so according to it..True love happens only once. Though it is possible more than once, but its too rare (0.5-1 percent) to be significant. If u do love someone than u cant have the same feelings for some one else. Otherwise its not love.

Just my views ... no offence to anyone.
M
mrintech #32
Jan 5, 2009 at 11:46 PM
well.. but in my personal observation, love is most probably (95%) nothing but a sexual attraction.. so it has more chances to come back once more.. its nature.
A Big NO and Sorry I can't give Example here in Public Forum

A Big NO Again
Sathish
Sathish #33
Jan 6, 2009 at 6:45 AM
A Big NO and Sorry I can't give Example here in Public Forum

A Big NO Again

im so sorry to say this.. love is heavily misleading by today's films so that sexual attraction becomes love. actually they dont even understand what is true love.
one important thing is "Love becomes true only when he has fallan at matured stage.
Ecstasy
Ecstasy #34
Jan 6, 2009 at 12:31 PM
There is nothing known as "True love". Its just that when you are in a relationship and everything goes perfect for you, you think that you are happy and you have found the perfect match and this is "true love". Its only an assumption nothing else.
M
mrintech #35
Jan 6, 2009 at 12:48 PM
im so sorry to say this.. love is heavily misleading by today's films so that sexual attraction becomes love. actually they dont even understand what is true love.
one important thing is "Love becomes true only when he has fallan at matured stage.
Yup! I am only telling about falling in LOVE at a Matured Stage.
There is nothing known as "True love". Its just that when you are in a relationship and everything goes perfect for you, you think that you are happy and you have found the perfect match and this is "true love". Its only an assumption nothing else.
So true! You must become a Philosopher / Psychologist ;)
Beckhamgal
Jan 6, 2009 at 8:09 PM
True Love? If he n she are happy together..its True love..simple!
Psychosocial
Jan 6, 2009 at 8:13 PM
I think it comes once. I thought I had found it but it was just a teenage infatuation :(.
Sathish
Sathish #38
Jan 6, 2009 at 9:20 PM
if thing went all horky dorky does not mean the person was not in true love or it was all an assumption, it was the couple's luck and destiny that they had to face no issues in their relationship.........

^^^well said... :)
Kl@w-24
Kl@w-24 #39
Jan 6, 2009 at 10:05 PM
True Mature Love can bring the best and the worst out of you and you yourself sometimes do not have the idea as to how far you can go if you love is taken away from you........so yes if thing went all horky dorky does not mean the person was not in true love or it was all an assumption, it was the couple's luck and destiny that they had to face no issues in their relationship.........

Absolutely right.
harryneopotter
Jan 6, 2009 at 10:46 PM
You are so very wrong brother, yes if all goes well probably you would not know at what extent you could have gone had things been not good, but for people for whom things were not very rozy, who fought for years with every one and every thing around them for whatever reasons, just to get couple of moments with the one they love, ask them and they would probably let you know what love is, most of them wont even bother to explain coz they would know, what they have and how worth it is.
True Mature Love can bring the best and the worst out of you and you yourself sometimes do not have the idea as to how far you can go if you love is taken away from you........so yes if thing went all horky dorky does not mean the person was not in true love or it was all an assumption, it was the couple's luck and destiny that they had to face no issues in their relationship.........

+infinity ....every word is as true as it can be .. for some ppl ... love takes the first prioity nd even their life takes the backseat.
one can only realize the value of true love when they have to do things (tht they wldnt do otherwise) to get to it. It really brings out the BEST AND the Worst of urself .....
Ecstasy
Ecstasy #41
Jan 7, 2009 at 12:29 AM
You are so very wrong brother, yes if all goes well probably you would not know at what extent you could have gone had things been not good, but for people for whom things were not very rozy, who fought for years with every one and every thing around them for whatever reasons, just to get couple of moments with the one they love, ask them and they would probably let you know what love is, most of them wont even bother to explain coz they would know, what they have and how worth it is.
True Mature Love can bring the best and the worst out of you and you yourself sometimes do not have the idea as to how far you can go if you love is taken away from you........so yes if thing went all horky dorky does not mean the person was not in true love or it was all an assumption, it was the couple's luck and destiny that they had to face no issues in their relationship.........

I'm not saying "true love" doesn't exist, I'm just saying that true love is not experienced by every person in this world.
rhitwick
rhitwick #42
Jan 7, 2009 at 12:45 AM
I've two quotes,

"We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, and hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives."

and,

"I love you. It's not a weight you must carry around. I love you. It's not a box that holds you in. I love you. It's not a standard you have to bear. I love you. It's not a sacrifice I make. I love you. It's not a pedestal you are frozen upon. I love you. It's not an expectation of perfection. I love you. It's not my life's whole purpose (or your's). I love you. It's not to make you change. I love you. It's not even to make you love me. I love you. It's as pure and simple as that." Anonymous
toofan
toofan #43
Jan 7, 2009 at 8:04 AM
I think it comes once. I thought I had found it but it was just a teenage infatuation :(.

Our little friend get hurt.:(

You can judge that you were in love with her in 18 months. If after 18 months you still feel something for her then you are in love with her. There is a hormone released when you feel love ( remind you LOVE) and it has its effect for 18month and after 18months if it kept releasing(means you still feel love for that gal) then you make yourself sure that not to miss her:p.
esumitkumar
Jan 7, 2009 at 10:19 AM
@toofan..ye 18 month ka funda kaise ? is it quoted somewhere ? post the source
Psychosocial
Jan 7, 2009 at 3:15 PM
Our little friend get hurt.:(

You can judge that you were in love with her in 18 months. If after 18 months you still feel something for her then you are in love with her. There is a hormone released when you feel love ( remind you LOVE) and it has its effect for 18month and after 18months if it kept releasing(means you still feel love for that gal) then you make yourself sure that not to miss her:p.

Lol I still have feelings for her but its not in the direction of love but the opposite dirrection. I think you are old enough understand my feelings or anyone's when they get hurt in love :|. Anyways, I better get out of this thread. Its making me an emo again.
C
Chirag #47
Jan 7, 2009 at 4:29 PM
^^
Sure it wasn't love then.
toofan
toofan #48
Jan 7, 2009 at 4:36 PM
@toofan..ye 18 month ka funda kaise ? is it quoted somewhere ? post the source

I had read it in some science magazine. So google around you may find the exact article or may know the depth of that research.
Sathish
Sathish #49
Jan 7, 2009 at 4:43 PM
Anyways, I better get out of this thread. Its making me an emo again.

be coool ma..:):) keep in touch..:)

Do u know, to define true love, would be to ruin it's purity, therefore, It has no definition.
There isn't an example even Shakespeare could describe.
Sathish
Sathish #50
Jan 7, 2009 at 4:44 PM
Anyways, I better get out of this thread. Its making me an emo again.

be coool ma..:):) keep in touch..:)

Do u know, to define true love, would be to ruin it's purity, therefore, It has no definition.
There isn't an example even Shakespeare could describe.
A
Jan 7, 2009 at 4:50 PM
its not always important that we will have true love just once in life. We can have true love for more than one time in our life.
eggman
eggman #52
Jan 11, 2009 at 10:55 AM
True love comes once in a lifetime?? yes!!!
That true love is Mother-Child live!!!
No other love is as true as that!!
Faun
Faun #53
Jan 11, 2009 at 11:48 AM
^^plausible