Who is wrong? and who is Right? please dont ignore I need all your opinion

H

Plz dont neglet my opinion, please give me your opinion, i need it to save myself.

The story goes like this, I love a girl, and I have talked to her dad, but her dad said no, and told that she is already engaged with an NRI, and my dad even went and told that NRI that, the girl and I both love each other, still than he married her, now all the people in her family thinks that that guy is very good as he still agreed to marry even after knowing all this, I think that he is so rude, as if he really loved her he would have understood her and let her go, her parents are proud of him, and they are telling me that I am bad and not really loving her , as if was loving her truely I would have let her go, She wants to get out of this mess, but loves her parents and dont wont to hurt them , so please tell who is good and who is bad.. Plz tell me as I need as more opinion as i get to make her understand the reality...

Dude Love needs sacrifice...she is ready to sacrifice then u should too..keep everyone happy specially ur loved ones :smile:

She's married. The story ends there.

U of all people need to get out of that mess first.

Sad story.
Follow the comments above my post.

H

Love needs sacrifice, but sacrifice not of love itself, sacrifice of everything else for love, I dont get it why everyone takes the statement in a different way, there are two sides of a coin, but why everyone takes the other side.

Relying on someone else will only let you down. Take your life back dude ! There is more to life than this chemical called love.

H

yeah I know that, even I understand, I am not letting myself down, i am doing my work, the only thing is I have seen this a thousand million of time, the same things happens, love has to sacrifice every time, terrorist kill people, do we take it as it and forget it don't we want to stop it, don't we do anything to stop it, this is one and the same thing, only if we try we can, I am not being selfish about myself but I am worried about the world, the very root to such terrorist activity are such dumb rules, that are valued more than love itself, if we all take it like that, and try to change the views, this things wont end, I don't know if I will get her back or not, but I don't want anyone else to go through the same thing, running away from love wont give us anything, at one point in life we will have to face it, so why not face it now only, and make our self strong, and help he society...

Agree what rhitwick said.

watch Dev D.

well Harsh ...
this situation is kind of tough
and there is no way that you can be a Hero here and save the girl from being married forcefully
You can't do it all alone, your girlfriend should have contributed too i.e. she should have talk to her parents and that other guy's parents
If she could have been stubborn on her point then something should be done

but it looks like the battle is already lost
the girl cant persuade either parents
the other boy and his family is willing to go onwards
and you are just a third party....

i hope you understood what i mean....

^^She is already married.

Whatever you do don't get into depression, that would be worst outcome for you and your family.

H

Na that is something that won't ever happen in my life, I ain't like that, I am thankful to god for whay he jas given me. I love god so won't get depressed like that, I just hate this rules...

Move on, honestly.

she is already married....
then there nothing else left here

move on bro, there's much more to life than these things

Life is like this. She made a choice which is "her parents". So she loved them more than you loved her. Try to distract your mind and do other things.

Be careful for the future.

I really think, you have nothing to do. She made her choice. Sorry bro, but that's the truth. Forget her, find someone else.

Life's is not lost when you lose a lover. it goes on, so should you.

The girl has sacrificed your love for her parent's love which in my opinion is good thing. Respect this decision of hers and let her go. More you linger, more problems will arise. Just try to move on.

gagan007 said:
The girl has sacrificed your love for her parent's love which in my opinion is good thing. Respect this decision of hers and let her go.

I won't say that her sacrifice was a "good" thing. But her decision needs to be respected.

H

Bro i want opinion on what is right and what is wrong, I know the truth, I am moving, I need to see who who is wrong whobis right... that's all...

The parents are wrong.
The girl is neither right nor wrong.
You are neither right nor wrong.
NRI fella might be wrong. Or might not be.

^^Right, agree.

H

Reason why nri fella might he right or wrong

Clearly you haven't moved on if you are thinking who's right/who's wrong. Forget about it. Obsessing about it will only lead to negative consequences.

He might be wrong. But then I don't know him. He might be right. But then I don't know him.

From what you have posted I can only comment upon the girl's parents and the girl.

And move on, seriously. Stop thinking about her.

Look, ab sock ke koi fayda nahi ki who is right or who is wrong. So leave it, none of you were right, none of you were wrong.

Don't try to be a hero, like you sacrificed or so.

Just find someone else.

For few months there would be problem, but if you concentrate on other things, everything will be alright after 1-2 months. Then find some other girl.

H

She still calls me and tells me everytime she loves me and will me till she dies, that nri fella already knew everything about her and me, even many other from his family also knew abour our lovw but still he married her...

She married him too.

harsh471 said:
She still calls me and tells me everytime she loves me and will me till she dies, that nri fella already knew everything about her and me, even many other from his family also knew abour our lovw but still he married her...

Hmm... if that's the case he's either too arrogant to consider a lady's wishes or maybe he has married her for money or something. But then the girl did stood by and married the guy, either way doesn't matter to you.
Ignore her calls really, it's not doing her or you any favours.

Have you tried asking Ekta Kapoor?

How does it matter now who is right and who is wrong? Ignore her calls. If she loved ya, why did she marry him? Money and security? She is in the arms of another man. Get a new hobby- and a cake.

Get me wrong if you want but that's the world we live in. She is married to someone else but prefers to use you. Yeah- you know what I am talking about.

This is Life :-|

The Sorcerer said:
Get a new hobby- and a cake.

harsh471 said:
She still calls me and tells me everytime she loves me and will me till she dies, that nri fella already knew everything about her and me, even many other from his family also knew abour our lovw but still he married her...

A sincere advice. Tell her to stop saying that she loves you and to move on with her life. let her love you till the eternity or whatever but you need to draw a line now, given that she made her decision and there is no going back. Had she really loved you, she would've made her parents let her marry you and explained that NRI that you are are the one.

you are right for respecting her and her family's decision and moving on.
her parents are like every other girl's parents. They are neither right or wrong
She is absolutely wrong as she is still pestering you about love even after she married that NRI.
NRI is just another guy who thinks that these things happen everywhere. He is neither a hero nor a zero

If the girl still calls you then it shows her confused state of mind. That's wrong. She is not only deceiving her husband but you (and herself too). I have witnessed such messed up scenarios in my close vicinity and I can tell you that it leaves no one happy.

You have let go the love of your life as it would have messed up everyone's life, that's the right thing to do.

Can't really say about "that" guy. There are circumstances under which people do certain things. I do not know and frankly you are also unaware of them. Even though you told him that you love that girl, he went ahead and married her. No one in right will do that. There must be a reason for that. Maybe he was assured by someone that there is nothing between you and the girl!

forget about her.

The Sorcerer said:
- and a cake.

give some space :smile:

Hey bro , same thing happened to one of my cousin brother . The girl married some other guy who her parrents wanted her to get married with . My cousin got over it well and after 2 years now , he too is happily settled and married to an even better wife and has a wonderful kid .
Forget her and try not to contact her since she is married now , she is not worth you . You will find someone better

And regarding who is right or wrong , your EX-GF was wrong . My GF is gujrathi and i am marathi and yet she has convinced her parents againts their wishes even when she is their only child . Your GF shuld have done the same .
The NRI guy is not wrong as far as i should say since he didnt force the girl to marry him . And you too will be wrong if you continue your relationship .

Seriously, get over it. Who cares who is right and who is wrong?

Of all the questions why this question bothers you so much? What kind of responses are you expecting to hear?

Do you want to listen you are right and the girsl is wrong, would that soothe you, would you move on then?
Try to understand the real issue, you are stuck on her and move on. And seriously, she's doing very wrong now. Calling you after marriage and telling she loves you.

She's married and it won't matter to her in near future whether she was ever in a relationship. Kids, husband, in-laws and etc. She's gonna be so much busy that she might forget to call her parents (for whom she sacrificed her love) to say hi. She won't even get time to think if she still loved you or her husband. This is called life. This is how it happens.

But, her actions are gonna afect you, if you don't stop now. Stop taking her calls. Talking to you is gonna delay things for her too, pain u r going through, she's also going through. Why do u want to lengthen it? Let her have a perception that u've moved on and she can too.

And, stop asking questions like who's right and who's wrong? It just does not matter and not worth knowing. That just won't change anything.

H

The nri guy forced her to marry her, his sister told her to promise him that she will marry him, or it won't be any good

harsh471 said:
The nri guy forced her to marry her, his sister told her to promise him that she will marry him, or it won't be any good

I think this is your misunderstanding , and i stand by what i said earlier even when i dont know your probs in deep . Your GF should have been strong , anyway nothing can be done now and u have to move along . :-(

There is no such thing as right or wrong in these matters. It all depends on the perspective. And it will differ from person to person. From mine, everybody here is a little bit wrong. She, because she chose to marry him against her own love for you, whatever may be the reason or pressure. Her parents are wrong because they didn't listen to both of you, and married her to that NRI guy against her wishes. That NRI guy was wrong when he married her knowing that it won't lead to the future he would have hoped for. And finally, you are wrong for being stuck on to something that is a lost cause.
She is wrong again for holding on to the love which is long lost. Both of you are chasing an impossible dream. You can choose to dream as long as you want to, but eventually you'll have to wake up. Better sooner than later.
It would be better for each one of you to bow down to the circumstances and move on with your own indivudual lives. My words might be harsh. But so is the truth.

H

Yeah you all are right, thanx for your support

Yet another Love thread

In this case no one can be blamed as everybody is right when you look this situation from their point of view. The girl was right because she never wanted to hurt her parents, you can't be blamed because you loved her and tried to go for your love at the right moment, the NRI can't be blamed as he must have seen something in her or pressure from his own loving ppl that he still agreed to dive in.
Now she is married, the whole matter ends there and now you ppl must move apart.
Tell her not to contact you and try to be a loving and caring wife(BTW wtf is wrong with her....geez ...i feel sometimes that girls nowadays comeup with issues that can train wreck their whole life and future along with everyone around her

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So seriously say to yourself ...show is over...now its time to move on....
PS : (BTW i never had to deal with a freaking GF in my life so the advices were not tested in real world scenarios.

)

H

God really loook onto u, ur blesed one, dude, enjoy life to its fullest, this is life acepting is the best way..

@op

Nothing can be done now !! Just move on .

Girls dont want to marry you because they cant not betray there parents and they still call you and say they love you . Story of lots of people lifes. No future in such relationships.

PS: The speed at which the posts are increasing is funny

Priority 1: stop receiving her calls. You will never get over her when you keep receiving her calls. Nothing can be done now as they are married. And, no matter who is wrong or who is right, you are not getting your girl back. And she is doing a very wrong thing hear. 'calling you and telling you that she loves you'. That direct cheating on her husband. And stirring your feelings up which is stopping you to get over.

She made her choice- not to hurt her parents' feelings. Which is a hands down choice over you.

Final words... Its too late to think about who is right and who is not. Move on. I know It will not be easy. But, just give it time.

harsh471 said:
God really loook onto u, ur blesed one, dude, enjoy life to its fullest, this is life acepting is the best way..

yeah man...get over it...Do something constructive that will help you to get out of the pain (BTW constructive doesn't include drinking booze and screwing around....

) Find your passion and move forward with your life

...and you sure will find the right one waiting for you somewhere...(LOL...atleast thats what i believe)

How can you never have a gf and your location always say with your gf

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50% of modern day marriages in India go like this today.
sad fact is .. there is nothing you can do about it ... it will take you some time to get over all this ... but i bet you will be ok in a few months ...

xtremevicky709 said:
How can you never have a gf and your location always say with your gf .

it is complicated....It says your gf...so technically its not mine...so that GF belongs to somebody else :grin:

Seriously...The busy rat race of life have never left me a choice.....but i am sure when the time strikes that perfect moment ..i will find my true love......aleast i believe so :grin:

iinfi said:
50% of modern day marriages in India go like this today.
sad fact is .. there is nothing you can do about it ... it will take you some time to get over all this ... but i bet you will be ok in a few months ...

50% is too steep...don't you think.... :wink:

iinfi said:
90% of modern day marriages in India go like this today.
sad fact is .. there is nothing you can do about it ... it will take you some time to get over all this ... but i bet you will be ok in a few months ...

There Corrected

R

sujoyp said:
Dude Love needs sacrifice...she is ready to sacrifice then u should too..keep everyone happy specially ur loved ones

Very true. Now as she is married so let her live her life and you too.

xtremevicky709 said:
How can you never have a gf and your location always say with your gf .

Maybe He is a rakhi walla brother for all those girlfriends